If you are dealing with a difficult, defiant behaved child or teenager, you are not alone. There are many parents that are living in a world of exhaustion, a feeling of entrapment of hopelessness. There are some kids that are not out of control, but just lazy, and unmotivated. Kids today, with the many challenges surrounding them, need all the support and encouragement that they can get from adults, especially their parent/s. A lot of kids today have also been given so much by their parent/s until by the time that they get older, entitlement is the feeling that they have without the motivation to earn.
Motivation is the act of propelling, induction or incentive for action. Many parents struggle with trying to motivate their kids. It’s only natural to want the best for your child, and it’s a natural desire for a child to want to please their parent/s. Many kids want to do or have the right thing, but have no idea on how to get them. Many times they don’t know how to even ask the questions for what they need.
There are some ways that you as a parent can create the “win-win” motivational situations for your child. Kids need a plan, it’s a means to ease the feeling of being overwhelmed, and it gives directions/structure. Praising is another way to move them in the right direction to do their best. Communication is a resourceful tool to open the doors of finding out what they want to do. Have them write down or draw their goals, date the material, and periodically revisit to track the success. This technique can be applied to short and long term goals. Empower your child, teach them problem-solving skills. Be the example for them to follow, lead by showing them how to do. They need self-confidence, not put downs. There are many resourceful tools for parent/s to use to motivate their child for success. Take the actions needed to help them be motivated to succeed.